Type 3

The chameleon, the actor

Margaery Tyrell (GOT)
Jay Gatsby (The Great Gatsby)
Mary Crawley (Downton Abbey)

Overview

3s organize their lives according to objectives in order to obtain the recognition and admiration of others. Whatever is their field of activity, 3s want to be recognized as being one of the best in this field. They are confident and believe in their success in whatever they try, and they often achieve it. They are ambitious, goal-oriented, determined and effective. They are very tactful and are charismatic charmers. They have strong interpersonal skills and a strong sense of adaptation. They are very good at getting into networks of knowledge and know how to present themselves in an attractive way.

Avoidance compulsion

3s seek at all costs, and often unconsciously, to avoid failures. They do everything they can to avoid unproductivity, inactivity, mediocrity and bad appearance. They often have a deep fear of being unwanted outside of their achievements. They seek to accomplish as much as possible to feel more accepted and desired by others.

Center of attention and motivation

The attention of 3s is mainly focused on the objectives set and the tasks to be done to achieve them. They are looking for performance and prestige. They are very attentive to the people around them, to whom they adapt to meet their expectations. They seek to embody the image of success.
The 3 are motivated to be recognized for their success. They are confident and know how to put themselves forward. They like to have attention, to be admired and to impress with their achievements, it motivates them more to surpass themselves. They need to distinguish themselves from others and seek to be the best at what they do.

Vice and defense mechanism

When they are under the influence of their compulsion (to avoid failures), 3s become vain and liars, but not only with others, they are so with themselves. Their defense mechanism is identification. They tend to change their appearance by embodying a role they see as the image of success, which allows them to avoid feelings of failure and to maintain the approval of others by embodying what they value. They are often so much in their role that they forget their "inner-self". Then, they seek to finish the tasks to be done and meet the expectations of others while keeping a picture of "winner". They find themselves in a kind of self-illusion by embodying the role and the image they want to project. They care so much to look good, and especially to appear at best, that they get lost in the role they identify with and forget who they really are.

In harmony

When they are in harmony with themselves and manage their compulsion, 3s are optimistic, attentive, involved in their work, motivational, competitive, sociable, practical, charismatic and competent.
They are in confort when they achieve the success they have been aiming for, get the image they want and inspire the admiration of others. Then they tend towards their type of integration (type 6) and its positive traits are added to their behavior. Thus they become less preoccupied with their image and engage more with others towards whom they can feel more loyal, and with whom they can become more altruistic.

In imbalance

Under the influence of their compulsion, 3s can become too conscientious of their status and their image, need the validation of others, become undecided, manipulators and addicted to work.
If the situation does not get better, they tend towards their type of disintegration (type 9) and its negative traits are added to their behavior. Thus they can become static, passive, withdrawn, more hesitant and less productive.

Wings

The neighbor types of 3 are types 2 and 4. We call the type wing, the neighbor type which seems to have the most influence on the basic type.
3w2s are warmer, more helpful and more supportive, but can also be more cajolers and manipulators.
3w4s are more introspective, serious and creative but can also be more pretentious and moody.