Relationship between type 3 and type 9

The chameleon and the peacemaker

Jay Gatsby (The Great Gatsby)
Jane Bennet (Pride and Prejudice)


The 3 is attracted by the tolerance, the calm, the listening ability, the open-mindness and the sense of adaptation of 9.
The 9 is attracted by the energy, self-confidence, productivity and efficiency of the 3.
The 9 can allow the 3 to relax, and to be himself, without having to worry too much about his image when they are together.
The 3 can help the 9 to be more active and motivated to develop projects.
They are both very sociable, do not like conflict, and can form a harmonious relationship.

Points where to be careful

The 3 can see the 9 as being too indecisive, passive, slow, easily distracted and stubborn.
The 9 can see the 3 as being too careless of the relationship, impatient and too concerned about his career and his image.
Both do not like conflict and may tend to avoid talking about what is wrong with each other. So problems can last for a long time without being solved. The 3 can take refuge in his professional occupations, and the 9 can completely close on himself waiting for a reaction of the 3.