This relationship can be very complementary. 8 is attracted to 9’s calmness, stability, tenderness, generosity, tolerance and discretion. 9 is attracted to 8’s energy, self-confidence, leadership and intensity. 9 being there with no pretence, and with affection, appeases 8. Also, 8 likes to be in control and make decisions, which often suits 9, who has a very indecisive nature, very well. 9s tend to live through their partner by merging with them. Thus, 8’s intensity enables 9 to feel alive. They are both sensual, with big hearts and like to have a safe and tranquil place to take refuge in.
8 can perceive 9 as being too passive, indirect, indecisive, inefficient and opposing. 9 can perceive 8 as being too demanding, domineering, intimidating, conflicting, excessive and uncompromising. When 9 feels under pressure, he doesn’t respond, becomes evasive and adopts a passive-aggressive attitude. This can make 8 even more furious. And 9 becomes even more icy and resistant. Also, 8 can equally neglect 9’s opinion when he thinks he is right, which can annoy 9 if he feels ignored.